For your consideration…
I love that I get to tie today’s message to my own mother because my experience with my mother (I emphasize my because my sister may object to some of today’s message) is not what most people would think about as they describe Motherhood. None of the photos on Mothers or Mother’s Day fit for my relationship with my mom. I think that when people think of motherhood they think of a happy home and unconditional love.
My experience was different. Our home was not a happy one. And while I never doubted my Mom’s love, it could be withheld depending on what was going on in her life. The fact is I was often afraid of my Mom. Having said that, I need to say that I firmly believe that we are born with the perfect parents for us. We agree to our relationship before we are born.
So what are the lessons I learned from my Mom?I learned the importance of holding on to our personal power. It is that personal power that can get us through anything. When we think we have nothing or lack, we have everything we need. My Mom could make a dime go farther than any other person I know besides my sister-in-law, Cathy. When Mom’s back was to the wall, she said, “Oh yeah, who says? Watch me. ”
Both my sister and I often talk about how much fun we are having during this quarantine…being creative and using what we have. We are getting a lot of satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment out of this. My Mom was not a good cook but she taught me how to conserve and use what we have. She was not wasteful.
I learned that truth matters. My Mom was brutally honest. You always knew where you stood with her. And she always said to trust your instincts and your pets instincts. She once told me, “If your dog doesn’t like someone, you had better pay attention.”
My Mom had a wicked sense of humor. She never lost it. Hard as life can be, laughing at life and yourself is a necessary life tool.
My Mom, taught me the value of friendship. My Mom had life long friends. The gift that is to our life is beyond words. Mom and her friends are my first role models of the Divine Feminine….even if they didn’t know what that was. Like my Mom, I have friends that I have had since I was a teenager. One of the blessings of this quarantine is that we decided to start Zooming on Friday nights…our Zoom PJ Party. We just grab a drink or water and show up as we are…it is too fun. One of our husbands asked, “What do you have to talk about? You just saw each other last week?” The answer is we don’t know but before we know it 2 hours has gone by….and there was never a silence.
I am thankful and grateful for the skills, life lessons, Guidance and love that I got from my Mom….the lessons that got me to where I am today and sustain me as I continue to grow into my life purpose.
That is the HOPE. And so it is.
Happy Mother’s Day, Patsy!
Bit by bit, piece by piece, HOPE by HOPE action steps anyone can take…
-Affirm…“I am loved.”
-Meditate/pray…ask…”What is my next step for my highest good and the highest good of all?’
-Drink lots of water.
-Get outdoors and take in at least 10 deep breaths.
-Celebrate the Divine Feminine and the lessons learned from our Mothers.
What made me smile yesterday…
-Will, Shannon, Mac and AJ brought their new puppy for an introduction.
-Will, AJ and Mac laid 40 bags of mulch for my….love….love….love it.
-And Will took out my big pots that I had wintered in the house.
-My outdoors is now complete for the summer. Wahoo.
-A good book.
Love, Blessings and Gratitude,
Rev. Chris
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