Heart of the Mother

I have resisted many times writing this blog. Today is no exception. I had to sit many times and examine my own heart to define exactly what is troubling it. What is at the root. Today my answer came back. “It is the same as it has always been for you. It is not going to change. You know this. It is part of YOUR life purpose.”

So I ask you to keep that in mind. This is my perspective. It is what I am supposed to share. Your perspective will be much different. I expect it and therefore do not judge it. So please remember the way I start every blog. This is For your consideration.

For your consideration…

Most of you know, I do not watch the news. It is too depressing and it makes it difficult to keep my positive energy flowing. I would think that anyone watching the news would have a hard time resisting the attempt to sway your opinion.

A few months ago, the issue was border patrol. Today it is Black Lives Matter. Any opinion I have would be disingenuous and based on what I get from other sources. I grew up in a little town where there were no black families. I moved to a city during race riots in the 60’s and never got what the fuss was about. To this day I could not tell you why they occurred. The high school both my girls attended was 50% or more black. This was not an intentional choice. It just wasn’t much of a consideration. My neighborhood is completely integrated but if I am honest it bore zero consideration on why I built here. I liked the property and the neighborhood. I think I have mentioned that I have recently done some ancestral healing. Again, there is nothing in my family’s background having to do with race. My friends of all races are my friends because of who they are. So again, me commenting on Black Lives Matter would be disingenuous because I do not have the background, ancestry, or experience to support a well-founded opinion.

I have written many blogs about our current Covid experience. I have said many times…and believe…that this experience is a growing one for us. In the end we will walk away with valuable experiences and changes. The world is changing. Light-workers have been asked to step up.

So what has been eating at me? As I sat with it once again, a comment from two different people came to me. Both my dear friend, Yvette, and lyanla Vanzant made the same comment. Iyanla Vanzant was on a zoom call. She gave a very powerful, moving to tears, talk about growing up black and Native American. She explained why her grandmother labeled herself black versus Native American. She and then my friend, Yvette, in a later phone call said this, “Black mothers have to school and coach their young sons on what to do when stopped by the police. They are to say nothing.” Yvette went on to explain that it is a very real fear. Her grandmother, mother, and sister had that conversation with their sons.

So by now you should be asking, “Chris, what possible problem do you have with that?” The answer is, “I don’t.” I think that probably most police officers are good and certainly we need them but there are issues. I think that “self-policing” where officers keep each other in check is discouraged. I think. I do not know.

So what is eating at me? During the zoom call with Iyanla and phone call with Yvette, my heart and head were screaming, “What about having conversations with your daughters on acceptable behavior, respect, equal rights etc. etc. etc.?”

MY life purpose is about delivering HOPE by the written and spoken word AND protecting women and children.

Mothers, what are we saying to our daughters? What conversations are we having with them? I am not talking about throwing them into the women’s movements as they are today. They are not inclusive. If they were coming from a mother’s heart, every women would be included. Personally, I would never encourage my daughter to put a “pussy” hat on her head asking and expecting people to take her seriously. That is MY opinion.

If Black Lives Matter was completely successful, the borders issues resolved etc. etc. etc., would our cutting issues, our divide go away? Consider that? MY opinion is no because women would still be mistreated and minimized…no matter the race. There can be no real solutions when 50% of the population is still not equal.

So what is the solution? It is as it has always been. Honoring the HEART of the MOTHER. Thinking and acting from the Heart of the Mother. What does that heart look like? Is it only women? No, the Heart of the Mother, is pure unconditional love. It is not unique to only women. Women, men, and children no matter their race, economic status, religion etc. can have the Heart of the Mother. They can act and lead with the Heart of the Mother.

Think about it. A Mother’s Heart has an infinite capacity for love. What does a world look like with that love emanating everywhere? Who can disavow a loving mother? No one, thus, the real reason women come last on the totem pole. No governments want to go up against a fierce Mother’s love.

There is a shift going on. We have the power to input into those changes. Where do we want to focus our energy and throw our power? We have a choice, we always have a choice.

That is the HOPE. And so it is.

Bit by bit, piece by piece, HOPE by HOPE action steps anyone can take…

-Affirm…“I am loved.”

-Meditate/pray…ask…”What is my next step for my highest good and the highest good of all?”

-Drink lots of water. It helps with clarity.

-Get outdoors and take in at least 10 deep breaths. Put your bare feet on Mother Earth.

-Lead and act from your Mother’s Heart.

What made me smile yesterday…

-A beautiful day. The last few have been cool enough in the morning to do my meditation outdoors. You have to love that.

-Catching up with both my girls and Jackie.

-A good book.

-I finally have landscaping that I can keep up with. Everything looks beautiful.

Love, Blessings, and Gratitude,

Rev. Chris