For your consideration…

Today’s message may be a tough one for some. Our message today talks about the physical passing of our loved ones. Let me be clear. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve. There’s no timeline for grieving. We cannot know the depth of another’s pain.

Today’s message came in via my friend Jackie’s son, Jonathan. I have not heard from Jonathan in a long time so I’m surprised when he stepped up to bring us our message today.

Jonathan offers us this perspective, this example. When our pain and grief seems unbearable, we still have a choice. When our pain is so intense that we don’t think we can take another breath, we still have a choice.

When we lose a loved one, our grief is intense because of the depth of our love. Our life seems unimaginable. For sure it is forever changed. Once again we have a choice. We have a choice on how we live life from this moment forward. The last thing our loved ones want is for us to have pain whenever we think of them.

Jonathan brings in this message because he is so so proud of his mother. While grief always changes us, it does not have to destroy the essence of who we are.

We’ve had messages before reminding us that the difference between this side of the veil and the other, between physical life and physical death, is only a fraction of a breath away. The love, the joy, the HOPE we have always shared with our loved one is just that close.

Jonathan loves that Jackie lives her life that way. She talks about him with happiness. She incorporates him in her everyday life. She acknowledges his presence. She feels his closeness. She honors their  love and bond that can never be broken. She has remained true to the essence of who she is.

Jonathan offers us the example of his mother as an option to consider in what feels like unbearable grief. We have a choice. We always have a choice.

Bit by bit, piece by piece, HOPE by HOPE action steps anyone of us can take…

-Affirm…“I am loved.”

-Meditate/pray…ask…”What are my next steps for my highest good in the highest good of all?”

-Get outdoors and taking at least 10 deep breaths.

-Drink lots of water.

What made me smile yesterday…

-A beautiful sunshiny day.

– Spending the day at Neptune’s snorkeling and swimming.

-Meeting new people.

– Dinner out with Anna who is also traveling alone.

Love, Blessings and Gratitude,

Rev. Chris


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